To give is to live, to expect is to have pain. So just to give, and not to expect is the supreme way to live. Its easy to say, but the most difficult thing to do. When you give, there is no unwinding, theres just the take. How much can one give, before one wilts under the stress of take? Or is it a chain, with the weakest link down, who unwinds, and the one who is much higher on is in the chain, is the one takes and unwinds less.
How much to unwind and throw on the near and dear ones, is always a calculation (depends on where one is in the chain). The human mind does not leave the mathematics of emotions ever. When one unwinds, undoes, it does cause stress, but how many can one take it up, bear it, and pull the other through is a calculated risk.
So where does one find, the solid one, the unaffected one, who can take on the stress, but if there was one such one, would it not be ineffective? For when one unwinds, the reactions of the other are the reflection of the unwinding, for if there is that supreme, unaffected one, there would be no reactions, and hence no unwinding.
The unwinding leaves the guilty feeling in me, of causing the pain to others. Its the balancing out to be done, and i think i will traverse the path alone, and not throwing the burden on others. It may take time, but i think that is the safest way :).
How much to unwind and throw on the near and dear ones, is always a calculation (depends on where one is in the chain). The human mind does not leave the mathematics of emotions ever. When one unwinds, undoes, it does cause stress, but how many can one take it up, bear it, and pull the other through is a calculated risk.
So where does one find, the solid one, the unaffected one, who can take on the stress, but if there was one such one, would it not be ineffective? For when one unwinds, the reactions of the other are the reflection of the unwinding, for if there is that supreme, unaffected one, there would be no reactions, and hence no unwinding.
The unwinding leaves the guilty feeling in me, of causing the pain to others. Its the balancing out to be done, and i think i will traverse the path alone, and not throwing the burden on others. It may take time, but i think that is the safest way :).
